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University of Nebraska at Lincoln - Department of Psychology
Family Emotions Project
TIPS FOR A HEALTHY FAMILY
Adjusting To Parenthood: Skills To Keep Your Relationship Strong
Millions of couples undergo the transition to parenthood each year. Couples expecting the birth of their first child typically anticipate this event with enthusiasm and excitement, but also some apprehension. The experience can be challenging, even for families who have already gone through this transition in the past.
Here are a few things that we have learned from our research about the transition to parenthood:
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It's important to keep an open line of communication. It's okay to feel nervous or overwhelmed at times. Talking to each other about your fears and concerns is important for helping each other through the transition.
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After having your first child, your relationship may goes through a rocky period. You are getting very little sleep, you are putting all of your energy into taking care of your new baby, you are under a lot of stress, and you are changing from a family of two to a family of three (or more). Sex may get put on the back burner, as does time for yourselves as individuals and as a couple.
*The good news is that most couples go back to having a happy, fulfilling relationship when the baby is 12-18 months old.
TIP 1: Be prepared and informed.
Having realistic expectations about what to expect as a new parent can help prevent decline in relationship satisfaction following childbirth. Read parenting books, talk to family or friends who have children, etc.
TIP 2: Remember that the stressful time following childbirth is temporary.
Things will get better after your child turns 1. Reminding yourself that this stressful time will pass can make it easier to handle.
TIP 3: Take time for yourself as individuals and as a couple.
Plan date nights, take a yoga class once a week, go for a walk, etc. Make time for the activities you enjoy and for activities that help you to feel closer to your partner.
TIP 4: Ask for help.
Social support is incredibly important for surviving the first year after having a baby. Being willing to ask for help and receive assistance from family and friends can help you as individuals and as a couple. For example, if a friend offers to babysit so you can have an evening alone with your partner, take your friend up on the offer!
How To Adjust To Parenthood